why wait?

I Heard that Kid Rock song about summer time on the radio today. It really got me thinking about all the summers of my twenties and how great they were. We weren't "smokin funny things" but we were free for the whole day long and who knew where that would end up. It was a great time...but it was a waste of time. About halfway through that song I looked in my rearview mirror and saw my son. I'm one of those people who waited until I was older to have kids. What a waste. Those were great days but those were some pretty lonely days too. Friends wouldn't be going out EVERY night. I wish I'd had my son sooner. What would I have missed? I think I would have been more driven and less indulgent. I made a rough estimate of the amount of money I spent indulging in hedonism over the course of 5 yrs I came up with an estimated $50,000.00 and that's being very forgiving. People say, "kids are expensive wait til you can afford them to have them." Well if I could afford to go out almost every night of the summer I could have afforded a kid, and it'da been way more meaningful, and a much more worthwhile investment. What I'm saying is I wish I would have had my son earlier. All those years could have been filled with love and wonder at a new life.

what would you have said?

The other day I attended a childrens function with my husband and baby. Baby needed a diaper change so off we headed. As I was walking into the ladies room (diaper in hand) I passed a few other mother's one of them watched me walk up then as i was passing she turns to the other mother and says in a very snotty tone, "shouldn't he be in pull-ups by now?" referring to my son. I just shook my head and blew it off thinking I wouldn't get in an argument about catty comments with a catty woman I didn't even know while carrying my child. Now I'm thinking what could I have said? I should have said something. Maybe, no lady my baby isn't even a yr and a half yet how the hell is he supposed to get on the pot? or maybe "i know our children where playing together and that mine is bigger than yours and surpasses yours developmentally in almost every way but he's really a good deal younger." or maybe just decked her. what do you think?